She is here

She is here and she is amazing.  Since my last post on October 3, so much has happened, I guess you can figure that out by the title of the post.   At last post our mom was in the hospital on bedrest, she was released after about a week and a half and was sent home still on bedrest.   I had a meeting to go to for work, but knew that we had to get to her to meet her and have each of us decide if this was the right family for us to form for the rest of our lives.   So on the 17th we flew 3 hours and drove another 3 hours all the way hoping we would pass muster.  I guess what I didn't expect was the nervousness on her and her boyfriends parts in meeting us as well.  It's funny in www.uterinewars.typepad.com   she asks what are the appropriate but non-influencing gifts to bring the biological parents on first meeting.  We chose Chili's take out, an outfit from Wal-Mart for their 4 yr old and a Wal-Mart gift card for groceries and clothing, since I knew the support from the agency hadn't arrived yet.    It didn't seem over the top and the next day there were groceries and a new outfit for T, our birthmother.  For the record, she said she does not mind Birthmother as a name,  I did ask.    We currently have several that we both like while our little girls is small.

Meeting T was one of the most emotional and rewarding moments of my life.  I truly like this women and am honored that she chose us to parent her little girl.  She is smart, intuitive and honest.   During our first meeting after we all ate, she and I started talking about names for our little girl.  It was important to both of us that we agree upon a first name and have that be part of AM's, our daughters, story.  Agree we did and we chose T's  middle name as AM's middle name.  We stayed at their home about an hour and a half and went to our hotel room with plans for Saturday to meet the parents of T's boyfriend.  

There are so many details of the weekend that are important and poignant and are all part of our daughters story.  If you have read The Red Tent I can best describe it as the bonds between women that can make this happen.   I truly believe we chose one another and truly like one another and will look forward to having one another on each side of this relationship for the rest of our lives.